Applying the Gospel to Our Relationships

Series: Paul's Letter to the Ephesians

Marriage and Divorce

Applying the Gospel to Our Relationships

43 min

Series: Paul's Letter to the Ephesians

Marriage and Divorce

Applying the Gospel to Our Relationships

43 min

On this program, the hosts resume their verse by verse discussion of Paul’s letter to the Ephesians, picking up midway through chapter 5. The focus of the conversation centers around Paul’s discussion of the relationship between husbands and wives, as an analogy of Christ’s relationship to his church. Once again, the practical imperatives are grounded in gospel indicatives.


SHOW QUOTE

“Because Christ so loved us and gave himself for us, now we can love each other in ways that just conflict with the way the world thinks. You think of it today, a husband and wife getting into a marriage where they have a prenuptial agreement because, basically, it’s what can I get out of this marriage. This is like a business partnership, for some people at least. ‘What can I get out of it? And if I don’t get enough out of it, then I’m going to eject.’ This is a very different view than the Scriptures provide and it’s based on the fact that it’s not our love for God, but his love for us that motivates us…

“What Paul is saying when it comes to the gift of salvation, the gift of the Spirit, restoring the image – going back all the way to Genesis where ‘in the image of God, he created them, male and female’ – that this image is being restored and it belongs to male and female equally; and in Christ, there is no distinction between male or female when it comes to sharing in Christ and his gifts. But that distinction he made in creation in terms of proper order and offices and roles is not destroyed by the gospel; rather, the gospel changes us in our conduct with respect to those roles.”

Michael Horton

TERM TO LEARN

“Godliness”

The manner of life that is centered on God, with special reference to devotion, piety, and reverence toward him. It can be defined as the conjunction of an attitude of devotion to God and of the consequent right conduct. In the Pastoral Epistles eusebeia denotes a particular manner of life and comes close to the OT idea of “the fear of God.” However, it does not focus upon the law, but on the individual believer’s faith in Christ (1 Tim. 3:16). The secret of the godly life is the revelation of God in Jesus Christ; godliness is basically following him in this life (Titus 2:12). It is thus presented as a Christian goal, to be earnestly sought after (1 Tim. 2:2; 4:7–8), even if it leads to persecution (2 Tim. 3:12). Godliness and sound doctrine are closely related. True doctrine is described as being “godly teaching” (1 Tim. 6:3) and “truth that leads to godliness” (Titus 1:1), while an appearance of godliness without true Christian content is characteristic of evil men (2 Tim. 3:5). It is important to note that godliness is directly connected to proper respect for the family (1 Tim. 5:4). Godliness is thus the honoring of God as Creator and Redeemer that is born of faith in Jesus Christ and expresses itself in daily living. As such, it is a criterion for soundness of doctrine and should characterize all Christians.

(Adapted from Evangelical Dictionary of Theology, s.v. “Godliness.”)

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Adriel Sanchez is the pastor of North Park Presbyterian Church (PCA) in San Diego, CA. He received his theological training from Westminster Seminary California and serves as host of Core Christianity. Adriel is the author of Praying with Jesus and, most recently, Why We Worship: Experiencing Heaven on Earth at Church. He and his wife, Ysabel, have six children.

Michael Horton (Ph.D., Wycliffe Hall, Oxford and Coventry University) is the J. Gresham Machen Professor of Systematic Theology and Apologetics at Westminster Seminary California and Founder & Editor-in-Chief of Sola Media.

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Paul's Letter to the Ephesians

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An Introduction to Ephesians

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Dead in Sin, Alive in Christ

What are the implications of Paul’s statement in Ephesians 2, that before we were made alive in Christ, we were actually dead in our trespasses and sins? How does this particular view of our sinful nature relate to our understanding of God’s grace and mercy in Christ? On this program, the hosts will be wrapping […]

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Saved by Grace Through Faith

How is grace related to faith and good works? Do we choose to allow God’s grace into our lives, or is it actually something that changes our desires and makes us willing to believe in the first place? And what does Paul mean when he says that we “who were once far off have been […]

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Reconciled Through the Cross

One of the implications of the fall—and of our inherited sinful nature—is that we are not only estranged from God, but are also at war with each other. Yet through the work of Christ on our behalf, Paul teaches that we are not only reconciled to God, but also believers from different walks of life […]

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The Mystery Revealed

In Ephesians chapter 3, Paul speaks of a mystery hidden for generations, but which is now fully disclosed in Jesus Christ. This mystery, he says, is that Gentiles are now fellow heirs with the Jews of the all promises made throughout the Old Testament. On this program, the hosts will read and interact with many […]

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Knowing the Love of Christ

Too often Christians in our day are divided into two separate camps. On one side are the intellectual types who focus exclusively on doctrine, and on the other side are the emotional Christians who focus more on love, experience, and practical Christian living. But according to Paul in Ephesians chapter 3, this division does not […]

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One Lord, One Faith, One Baptism

What are the implications of our being united to Christ through baptism, and how does this new reality affect the way we live here and now? As a result of this new union, how should we then relate to other members of the body of Christ? On this program, the hosts are continuing their survey […]

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Futility of Mind & Hardness of Heart

In Ephesians 4:17, Paul says that Christians “must no longer walk as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their minds.” In this insightful passage, we see the connection between doctrine and life, even in the case of non-Christians. According to Paul, Gentiles pursue lives of pleasure and sensuality because they believe that life is […]

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Walking in Love & Thankfulness

As a result of their being chosen and adopted in Christ, Paul now instructs the Ephesians to imitate God as beloved children. In short, Christians do not become God’s children by imitating him, but rather we are first brought into his family by grace alone, and then are called to walk in light of our […]

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